It’s said that a writer needs to write from the heart, and about things that he or she knows. Therefore, I am going to resist the urge to write about something that’s been in the news a lot (sexual harassment), but which I know next to nothing about, and write instead about something I DO know – PETS.
And more specifically, getting a NEW pet. We lost Baxter, our Maltese, on May 13 at age 13, but now that number has come full circle with us adopting a part Dachshund, part Chihuahua on December 13 (which doubles as my wife’s b-day BTW.) … (God is indeed good.)
What can I say? We haven’t even had her for a week yet, but Pepper Ann is already weaving her way into our hearts. (See photo below.) Every dog is different, so we have to try to resist the urge to compare her to Baxter. We found out early on that she likes to play hide-and-seek (mostly with a bone), and rip paper to shreds, sometimes even when her bone is nearby. A little frustrating, to say the least.
I think the older we get, the more we realize that the best presents are NOT found wrapped in a box with a bow, and placed under a tree. No, the best presents are things like good health, kids, loved ones, etc.
And might I add a new dog to the mix? After the heartache and emptiness we experienced earlier this year after we lost our Maltese, it seems to me that Pepper Ann is an extremely special Christmas present. In fact, I don’t think I can come up with one as good – not even my treasured Hot Wheels cars I had as a kid.
I hope you all have a safe, happy and merry Christmas.
A company holiday party can be a night of debauchery, drinking and fun, yet someone will always end up paying for it in the end. You surely don’t want to set yourself up for a potentially bad situation. In our current [sexual harassment] climate, it is too dangerous and at the very least could result in you becoming the office gossip on Monday and at worst, could cost you your job.
if you feel yours will lead to a bad hangover and potentially some awkward and regretful conversations or activities, just say no. Here are three options to consider if you decide to skip the party this year:
- Politely decline. Say you are taking a rain check this year. It doesn’t mean you are not a team player, it just means that you would like to find another way to celebrate the holiday and your colleagues. Your professional reputation and relationships are what should prevail and be your legacy, so not attending the party may be the best choice for you. But it is your choice.
2. Offer up another idea. Offer an idea to management that is a healthy way to celebrate with your colleagues. It could be a holiday scavenger hunt, or a holiday decorating competition. Either way, these are still tea- building situations and are fun and productive. You could even offer to organize it the following year to show your engagement.
3. Be your own host. Another way to celebrate time time with your “work family” is to host a Sunday brunch at your home or do it collaboratively with your friends as a potluck event. You can share your best ham, stuffing, eggs benedict, potato latkes, and fruitcake. This way, it is fun, celebratory, yet on your terms.
If something makes you feel uncomfortable about attending, than certainly opt out. Your job will still be there waiting for you to execute to the best of your abilities.
Holly Caplan is an award-winning manager and author of “Surviving the Dick Clique: A Girl’s Guide to Surviving the Male Dominated Corporate World” For more information, visit http://www.hollycaplan.com.
We all know that the awareness of sexual harassment and gender bias in the work place is at an all time high. The stories just keep on coming. They do not stop. Every day a new woman comes forward and everyday a new man is vehemently apologizing on a major network.
In light of all of this, companies and employees are reevaluating their upcoming holiday parties, which often becomes the chance to drink heavily with your colleagues and act in ways you otherwise would not.
Before writing this, I reached out to a long time friend of mine who works as a human resources director. She laughingly told me that the busiest week in HR is always the week after the holiday party. Employees come in with complaints of sexual harassment and overall ill behavior. I could just see her shaking her head over our phone call. She said during the week after the holiday party she has a rotating door to her office.
It tells us that the holiday party can be a night of debauchery, drinking and fun, yet someone will always end up paying for it in the end. That is why this year, you, the employee, should be looking at this differently. You surely don’t want to set yourself up for a potentially bad situation. In our current climate, it is too dangerous and at the very least could result in you becoming the office gossip on Monday and at worst, could cost you your job.
You should know, it is okay to say no this year, or any year. Depending on your company’s culture, you can make a decision that will be best for you. Some companies choose different paths for these events, but if you feel yours will lead to a bad hangover and potentially some awkward and regretful conversations or activities, just say no.
NEXT POST: Options to consider if you decide to skip the holiday party.
Holly Caplan is an award-winning manager and author of “Surviving the Dick Clique: A Girl’s Guide to Surviving the Male Dominated Corporate World.” For more information, please visit, http://www.hollycaplan.com.
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